Senior Spotlight: Help Not Wanted

There is one truth perhaps even more certain than death and taxes – which is that none of us are getting any younger. As we age, it is inevitable that our needs will change and thus our lifestyles and support systems must adapt too. While there are 63 million family caregivers in the US and nearly half of those aged 65 and older require help with the tasks of daily living, the desire for help is often much less than the need. In other words, even those who can’t do everything alone… won’t let anyone help them! 

There are countless reasons why aging loved ones decline support, ranging from not wanting to burden anyone, to concerns about losing independence to cost and convenience challenges. While it would be impossible to suggest that all of these obstacles can be overcome with ease, we have selected 3 articles that offer guidance and perspective. 

Coping With Caregiving When You're Not Wanted | Next Avenue 

This insightful article is divided into 3 key parts: 1) Understanding the reasons behind unwanted support; 2) Establishing boundaries and allowing distance and 3) Choosing self-preservation. The end of the read also lists 5 caregiving support services - check it out. 

What To Do When Aging Parents Refuse Help | Eldercare Alliance 

This post starts out with a not surprising fact; 77% of adult children say their parents act stubbornly. While it is comical and relatable on one hand, it is concerning on another as how do you help someone who needs it – but won’t allow it? With 7 simple steps to take when an offer of help is seen as a hindrance, this is worth a read today. 

Why Seniors Refuse Help | Aging Care 

This article addresses some harsh realities – the stigmas associated with aging, how sometimes denial leads to poor decisions and hiding indiscretions (i.e. secretly driving) and how intervention is required if severe dementia or cognitive loss is involved. However tough these conversations are, safety and dignity take precedence, so we applaud this article for addressing the tough stuff.

We hope that whether you are a caregiver or someone receiving support, you can achieve a balance of wants, needs and circumstances. Aging is never easy, but a life well lived is more than worth it.

Cheers,

Bobbi 

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